I have a client who thinks she sleeps with men too early in the dating process.
It’s something that has come up over and over.
When I asked her why, she said she didn’t think he would stick around if she didn’t.
Guess what, she did, and he didn’t.
Women get talked into doing things.
How did we get to a place where a guy gets to decide what we get to do with our bodies?
Many of us are GUILTY of rushing into a sexual relationship too soon. The energy is there, our hormones are turned on and we are feeling the rip-your-clothes-off passion right now!
A couple of cocktails later, we know we probably shouldn’t but DO anyways because we believe in the magic of the moment.
Like this could not possibly end right?
Hmmm.
Go there. How many times have you slept with a man too early and wished for a do-over?
I am a Midlife Reinvention Coach. I empower women 40+ to reinvent themselves, attract and keep soulmate love, and age like a goddess. Midlife is a time to be the queen of yourself and rock the second half of life on your own terms.
Here is what I would have loved to know and embrace when I was in the world of dating (for a long time).
People have s*x way too soon. Men are driven s*xually so they always want it.
Once that driving force has been removed, he might think that went too fast. He might think I don’t really know that person. He just might disappear.
Reduce all of the anxiety, heartbreak, and expectations early on in the dating process.
How about NO S*X for at least 10 dates?
Are you up for the challenge?
There is no benefit to having S*X too soon.
This sets up healthy dynamics for you to get to know someone. When someone really likes you, they will wait until you are comfortable.
What if he doesn’t agree? Bye! He did you a favor. He is not for you.
Want to learn more from a man’s perspective? Here is a fun audiobook to listen to – It’s Just a F***ing Date
Men love to pursue. Let them.
When a man asks you out, you are in the power position.
Don’t be so available. The less you give the more interest he has.
You only get the first part of the relationship once. Make it memorable.
The great joys are the chase of something. The learning of something.
How about a period of real courtship? Men want to win. Let them have a waiting period. Go SLOW.
Both people get something out of this slowness.
The truth is you need to know someone before S*X is REALLY GOOD.
Full surrender good. No orgasm GAP good.
Men need time to connect, bond, and discover you. Create space for this mind, body, and spirit phase.
If he thinks you are a prude, f**k him. Who cares. He is not your guy.
Get into the process of savoring the connection. The unfolding of intimacy is like a rose, petal by petal.
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I am a Midlife Reinvention Coach. I empower women 40+ to reinvent themselves, attract and keep soulmate love, and age like a goddess. Midlife is a time to be the queen of yourself and rock the second half of life on your own terms.
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You are loved beyond measure.
XO,
Melissa
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