A relationship thought loop is a repeated thought that creates a minor obsession to think about someone or something over and over and over again.
It could be words that someone said to you at any point in your life and maybe those words felt loving and good. Maybe they were harshly painful. A thought loop would be thinking of those words on repeat.
Many of my clients have thought loops about relationships. You have an urge to seek out someone from your past and then you are searching Facebook, LinkedIn or other social media findings. Your remembering all the good things or creating stories how it could have been if you were a different person. It’s a loop that feels like it is not in our control. You may wake up thinking the same thought, randomly appearing and disappearing and it almost feels like our brains have taken us over. That is never the case, but it just feels that way.
One of the ways we try to deal with these thought loops is by resisting them. When we try to resist anything, it just makes it stronger and stronger.
Feel this part of you that really needs your love.
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Thought loops can come from an obsession of controlling the uncontrollable.
If you are caught in a thought loop you can ask yourself these questions:
- What do you think has gone wrong here?
- What are you really wanting?
- What is are you supposed to learn?
You can then get curious as you provide the answers for yourself and you can stop trying to create it artificially with compulsive action. Compulsive action will never get you the ultimate result you want.
Once you have done the work you can separate yourself from the thought loop. You can take all that obsessive energy and flow it into a productive and important project.
When I have a thought loop that doesn’t seem to go away, I like to redirect my thoughts with a loving mantra.
“I am Love. I am Safe. I belong.”
I will turn my thought loop into something loving for myself.
If you’re resisting this energy you will get exhausted. You will have no energy to do anything.
When you allow that energy and refocus it onto something more important to you, you will feel energized by it.
So much of the healing work I have done, the work I put out in the world, the business that I have built has come from redirected energy.
I have taken energy from thought errors, anxiety, worry, doubt, shame, guilt and used it to create something useful and productive for myself and my clients.
You all can redirect your energy. When you do, what do you want to create with yours?
I am a Sex, Love + Relationship coach. I teach high achieving women how to strengthen their relationships, overcome mindset roadblocks and up level their lives. Guaranteed. If you are ready to work with a life coach and drastically improve your life, I invite you to sign up for a free consult and learn more about 1:1 coaching. It is risk free. Please visit me at https://melissamcclaincoaching.com/consult/
You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are seen. You are always worth the investments you make in yourself. Choose you first. Always and forever.
XO,
Melissa
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