Unconditional Love is a Skill

Unconditional Love

Love is one of the strongest and powerful things we can do, feel, and create in our lives.  The question is, how can we get better at loving and being loved? Deep down, everyone just wants to be loved.

Love is the best feeling. Withholding love hurts and feels terrible.  Love is always for you first and foremost, not for someone else.

Love never hurts. If it hurts, you are doing it wrong. The lack of love never protects you. What hurts is the thought you are having about someone. That thought is causing the pain. You can choose any thought in the world, become aware of your thoughts that break your heart.

Unconditional love means you love someone no matter what they do, for the sake of feeling and experiencing love. The more you love yourself, the better you get at loving and the better you are at loving yourself.

Unconditional love is a skill. It’s a skill that we can all learn.

Most of us love conditionally. Most of us love another if they do what we want them to do, say, and believe. Sometimes we love only if we think a person is worthy of love.  Most of us only love if we think the person deserves it.

How might your life change if you loved unconditionally?  Loving someone when they don’t meet your expectations? Loving someone when they think differently and do not always agree with you and what you believe?

I am a Sex, Love and Relationship Coach.  I teach smart driven women how to love themselves unconditionally, listen to their intuition and prioritize their emotional wellness.  You can learn more about me and book a FREE discovery call here www.melissamcclaincoaching.com

Life is 50/50. This mean that 50% of time you will be happy and 50% you will not. This is contrast.  Contrast is part of the human experience and not an excuse not to love someone. When you decide to withhold love from someone, you are only hurting yourself because you are the one that is not feeling love.

If you could feel any emotion in the world today, what would you choose? Love is a good one. It feels incredible and available to us at any time if we choose to feel it. Love comes from within; it is not an outside source.

We think that if we withhold love, it somehow hurts the other person. Or when we feel it, it is for their benefit. Both are untrue.

The truth is we can love someone no matter what, even when they don’t love us back because feeling love is always the better option.  When you love someone on purpose regardless of what they do, this is unconditional love, and it is always available to you.

You are never punishing someone by not loving them. You are only hurting yourself because it’s you that is withholding love and feeling the pain.  People don’t have to do anything to deserve our love because our love is always about us not them.

So many of us go around life trying to be more lovable. We people please. We try to make it easy for other people to love us. The truth is that someone else’s inability to love has nothing to do with you. It’s on them and their capability and capacity to love.  Your lovability to absolute. Your lovability is already given, and you have always been worthy of love. You don’t need to do anything extra or change anything to become more loveable.

If you want more love in your life show up as love.  Love when it is so fucking hard to love.  Love someone all the way through the disappointments, unmet expectations, etc. This is next level loving and it is for you.

You also get to love whomever you want to love.  Even is they don’t love you back. Even if they are mean and hating on you.  The gift that you are giving yourself is the ability to love people regardless.

When we break it all down, the priority for any relationship is with yourself. It’s the love and care you have for yourself that propels all other relationships you have in your life.  Loving yourself unconditionally through all the mistakes is the healthiest way to grow.

I am a Sex, Love and Relationship Coach.  A life coach helps you up level your life.  When you work towards something or change something in your life you are up leveling.  Together we work on your future vs being past focused.

You are beautiful. You are seen.  You are enough.  You are loveable.  You are worth the investment in yourself.

I will always believe in you.

 

 

xo,
xo,

Melissa

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