Sex is our essential life force. It is the basic urge to merge into oneness. Passion is what connects us to all life and desire is our path to divine union. The mating drive is one of the most powerful forces in the world. It has to be otherwise none of us would be here.
If you want to have better sex and more satisfying intimate relationships, you have to begin with yourself and more specifically, the relationship with your own sexuality. The more you understand who you are sexually and how you operate, the better you will do in all aspects of your life, sex included.
Wholistic sexuality, as defined by Sheri Winston in her groundbreaking book “Women’s Anatomy of Arousal”, builds on an empowering vision of healthy, loving, responsible, respectful, and ecstatic sexuality. This framework honors the wisdom of sex positive societies, modern research and embraces the mind-body-spirit-heart connection.
Some issues around sex are cultural confusion and mixed messages. Historically, Western cultures discouraged, shamed, and actively banned sexuality. Mainstream Christianity has it that the early body is innately bad and needs to be transcended to be spiritual. We are a nation of the sexually wounded, handicapped by lack of knowledge, and suppressed erotic energy that denies people their birthright of blissful sexuality. Dirty words and slang terms for our body parts are deemed dirty and bad. This further conveys a clear message that sexuality is shameful and disgusting. We are also not formally taught how to have great sex.
What are your thoughts on Sex? Are you living an authentic life sexually or following someone or some religious organizations views? Listen to your soul, what is true for you?
No matter where you are sexually, you can start on a path of progress by consciously deciding to set out on a learning journey. Do the research and define what is true for you vs someone else’s views.
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“Do not believe anything because it is said by an authority, or if it is said to come from the angels, or from the Gods, or from an inspired source. Believe it only if you have explored it in your own heart and mind and body and found it to be true” – Buddha
Our sexuality has the potential to be sacred and pleasurable. For this to happen we must embrace a sex positive, celebratory framework. We can create sustainable intimate relationships based on being in authentic connection with ourselves and others. We can shift our consciousness, our thoughts, to a direction that celebrates the feminine and masculine polarity. It is this dance that creates the sexiest of relationships.
Great Sex, deep love and nourishing relationships start with you. It’s the unconditional love you have for yourself that propels all the other relationships in your life. Unconditional love is a skill. It’s a skill that we can all learn. It’s a gift you give to yourself, the ability to love yourself. You do this with deliberate thought management.
Our thoughts can feel like we do not have any control over them. Do not allow your thoughts to just happen to you. Watch and notice your thoughts. They are optional. Be the watcher of your brain.
Once you are aware of your thoughts about Sex, the feelings they cause and how you react to those feelings, you can begin to deliberately think on purpose.
7 Tips to Thinking on Purpose
- Notice and become aware of what you are thinking and why. Write down the sentences that are rolling around in your brain
- Question each one. Is this thought on purpose or just something that has been collected or taught to you over the years?
- Do you believe this thought? Why?
- Does this thought feel good or cause angst and pain?
- Is it true for you today?
- Why do you think it?
- Do you want to think and feel this way about this thought?
When you allow the thoughts and feelings and are aware of them, you can then choose differently, eventually getting to a place of directing your thinking before you feel or react. It’s about choosing the way you think and feel that will serve you.
When we break it all down, the priority for any relationship is with yourself. It’s the love and care you have for yourself that propels all other relationships you have in your life. Loving yourself unconditionally through all the mistakes is the healthiest way to grow.
I am a Sex, Love and Relationship Coach. A life coach helps you up level your life. When you work towards something or change something in your life you are up leveling. Together we work on your future vs being past focused.
You are beautiful. You are seen. You are enough. You are loveable. You are worth the investment in yourself.
I will always believe in you.
