Wild Unknown Tarot Manifestation | Strength
We all make mistakes. We simply fuck up. We say and do the wrong things in a moment. We take little or big chunks out of our relationships. This is life. We are perfectly imperfect humans.
Recently I did this. A friend was trying to explain to me how he was feeling about a situation over a text. I saw it differently. I couldn’t see into what was being said because I was so quick to jump into my masculine energy and defend.
I believe we are all doing the very best we can in every moment. In that moment, it was how I responded which was to shut down. In reflection, I could have been a better listener. Everyone wants to be heard. To really be seen.
I did a thought download which is the same as journaling. I just get it all out on paper with ink. I don’t edit, I just dump my brain. It helps to reflect and is part of self-coaching. It is part of self-healing and self-forgiveness. Forgiveness of the self is number 1. It is the ultimate act of self-love. Love is always the answer. Always. It is the best feeling for everyone involved.
Life is 50/50. This means that 50% of the time you are happy and feeling good and 50% of the time you are not. It is just the way it is. So, in this scenario I decided to be the bigger person. After a few days, I reached back out to my friend and apologized for not being a better listener. I should have said, thank you for sharing your view, please tell me more and gotten curious with an open mind. Also, communicating hard stuff via text never works. It is so much better face to face looking into someone’s eyes and really feeling the energy of the moment if you are able. Even a simple phone call is better than a text.
All relationships should help us grow and develop into higher vibrating humans. This short-lived friendship taught me about being a better listener moving forward and forgiving myself first for not saying and doing all the right things in every moment. For fucking up. When you apologize you do this for yourself, you release what is tugging on your heart. Whether you do this in person, over the phone or in writing you are loving on yourself. You don’t have to tell the other person if you don’t want to. You could do the work and release it and just let that shit go.
I remembered another friend recently provided me a few of his favorite books and one was about being a great listener. I plan on adding this to my list of book reads.
Everyone enters your life for a reason. There is always something to learn. Some of our relationships are short lived and some last longer or lifetimes. I think that when two humans get together, we should all leave each other as better people than when we met.
5 tips for forgiving yourself when you fuck up
1. We are all human and perfectly imperfect. Just remember that. This goes for everyone. Write it on your bathroom mirror in red lipstick.
2. Love on yourself. Take the time to reflect to see what your part was and how you could do it better the next time you are in that situation. There will always be a next time until you learn your lessons in life.
3. Empty out your brain and write. Do thought downloads and get it all out unedited from your mind. It helps you feel better and visually see all the different thoughts you have about a circumstance.
4. Apologize when you are wrong or could have done things differently. Be the bigger person. Someone must be the bigger person and you will be growing and evolving when you do.
5. Do what is needed to grow. For me, I want to be a better listener. To really hear and see others. This little lesson will help me get there. I will read a book or listen to some podcasts but in the end, I am very aware of a growth opportunity that will affect all my other relationships moving forward.
So, when you fuck up grow from it. I like to think we are all evolving and growing to walk this planet as higher vibrating humans. Be an example of what is possible. Lead by example. When you do this, you are teaching others how to be bigger better versions of themselves. There is always room for improvement.
You are beautiful. You are seen. You are enough. You are loveable. You are worth the investment in yourself.
I will always believe in you.
