Interesting fact about me. My mom was a nudist so my brother and I grew up going to nudist resorts my whole young life. I remember being a little kid at these resorts and everything seemed normal. We would swim in the lake, hang out in the sun and run around with other kids. Going to the convenience store and the woman behind the counter naked was the norm. I wasn’t tainted by society yet and what other people think is appropriate or not.  I didn’t realize that this type of lifestyle was not the norm and most everyone else I would meet in life would have opinions and lots of rules around nudity. Religion does a great job creating shame around nudity.
As I started growing older and sharing this fact about me, I would get a zillion questions and felt frowned upon so I stopped sharing. Most people are uneducated around nudist resorts. The ones I went to were not sexual at all. There were no couples having sex out in the open, no orgies, no men walking around with hard cocks and honestly, it’s just not allowed. What people were doing is just living life without clothes out in the open but behind gates of the general public. What you see are bodies with all shapes and sizes. Big, small, one boob, mastectomies, imperfect surgeries, etc. Just perfectly imperfect humans which is what we all are. When I would ask my mom why she loved being a nudist she would say because there are no phonies.Â
My Mom went to nudist resorts all over, nude cruises and even married her second husband in the nude. He wore a cummerbund and bow tie and she a see-through negligee. We were not there. As I got older, I liked to go with a boyfriend if my mom promised to not go. I love being naked. I like the freedom of just being around humans who show up authentic and are not punching themselves mentally because they don’t have perfect bodies. Women are so hard on themselves. We mentally beat ourselves up for not being skinny enough, not having perfect bodies, worried about what others think. We show up with our lovers wondering if he thinks we are fat, do I smell good, taste good, are my labia too big, I mean the list goes on and on and encompasses everything. Not only does this negative self-talk affect your self-esteem and how you are showing up in the world but it also affects your ability to fully surrender into orgasms.
At this stage in my life, I show up real, raw and authentic. This growing up nudist is just a small part of my story. I have zero shame about it. I am happy to educate the uneducated. That lifestyle taught me so many things. To be open minded and nonjudgmental. To be super comfortable with nudity and not beat myself up for being perfectly imperfect.
Your Thoughts about Nudity | Healthy Questions to Ask Yourself
- Stand in front of a mirror naked. What thoughts do you have about yourself? Write them down
- Are these thoughts kind? Loving? Would you want your best friend, daughter or mothers to be speaking to themselves in this way?
- How do you show up with your lover? What thoughts do you tell yourself?
- Are you able to fully surrender into orgasms or are you caught up in your mind with a bunch of stories about how you look, taste and feel naked?
You have the power over your thoughts. You get to re-write the story you have about yourself, one thought at a time. This is Self-love. It takes time and belief and loving yourself more than anyone else in the universe. Self-love effects all the other relationships you have in your life. It is radical and transformational.
I am a Self-Love Coach. I help ambitious women listen to their intuition, love themselves unconditionally, and prioritize their emotional health so they do not settle in a world that does not recognize their value. A life coach helps you up level your life. When you work towards something or change something in your life you are up leveling. Together we work on your future vs being past focused.Â
You are beautiful. You are seen. You are enough. You are loveable. You are worth it.
I will always believe in you.
